REFLECTION: Patas sa Benteng Tanong

**I was able to retrieve my reflection note on the play entitled "Patas sa Benteng Tanong". This was the first play I watched in the XU - Little Theater (since t'was part of the requirement for English 41 class). Let me share it to you :) **

“How do you see virginity ba?” was one of the question raised by Yumi to Jigs that strikes me most. We all know that virginity is the state of being a virgin. A virgin is usually a woman who had never been into a sexual intercourse. The state of virginity has always been significant to me. I perceived virginity as something sacred to be valued and respected. For other people, they considered the act of losing one’s virginity as one of the important life event but for me it is something to be ashamed and not to be proud of. I am not saying that virginity is a full requirement to marriage. In the first place, unmarried people are not allowed to enter into sexual activity; otherwise they considered sex only just for pleasure, fun and entertainment. Sex is just for married person and no other people can do it but only those who acquired the gift of matrimony. It is improper to say that a woman should surrender her virginity to a man just for assurance before getting into marriage. It is the woman’s lost, if the man did not marry her whose virginity he had taken. Each person must use his or her own judgment and decides if it is the right time and the right person. Virginity is not for you to give in to anyone just because of girlfriend/boyfriend wants, peer pressure problems, movie madness, and feeling curious. In order to value virginity, one must think that virginity is a personal decision.

The Patas plays an important role in today’s generation. It is a reality check to what is truth behind virginity and pre-marital sex. It is an aid for us to have a clear understanding on how we should value and respect it. Of course nobody wants to be left out of things. This means that we should consider factors both physical ones, like the possibility of becoming pregnant and the emotional factors too. The real thing there is, when it comes to sex, you are in charge of your own happiness and your own body and you have a lot of time to wait until you are sure about it. Finally, being a virgin proves that you are in charge and you are powerful enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body.

Guard Your Heart

:* let me share to you the thoughts that I have been keeping for years;

When a man and woman have feelings for each other, it does not necessarily need to have formal relationship as bf and gf. While both of you are still busy with your personal life, it's possible that you could make each other as an inspiration. No commitment just a romantic bond. Isn't much sweeter and nicer when you both accomplished everything that you want in life and yet you still end up together?

cc:looking back

TRUE LOVE WAITS

I know that one of the best feeling here on earth is being in love and being loved by someone, Right?  It’s good when someone courted you, ask you for a date and give you flowers during your monthsary or even at your anniversary and everything under the sun that unites the both of you.  You may speculate me for knowing all of these. You may conclude right away.  But babe, don’t be bothered. I am just human. I have eyes to see lovers around me. I have ears to hear those sweetest words a man could ever say to his girlfriend. And definitely I can sense the kilig feelings they have for each other.

i wanna fall for someone who would make 

me feel that JESUS is his number one

Yes naman! Just like any other woman, I can imagine myself being with someone (but that someone is unidentified). His face feature is hazy and fuzzy. But all of his attributes is definitely one of the standards I am looking for. Where on this earth I could find that someone who is so FAITHFUL not just to me but most especially to God? Ahmmm! I am not looking! I am not searching and certainly I am not hurrying. As the song goes like this;

“You can’t hurry love

You just have to wait

They say love don’t come easy

It’s a game of give and take “

This is one of the songs that remind me about taking it slow, letting it go and letting God to make it happen. That is why, I remain single since birth because I am not looking for love instead I allow love to find me. *parang tago – taguan lamang! Just kidding aside*.

For years I have been living in the magical feelings of having crushes. For some, this is so high school but I don’t mind; At least I have crush (hindi ako matatawag na abnormal). And besides, my beloved nanay is not in favor of having boyfriend (only boy na friend!hahahaha) while studying. Cliché! While others are saying “dili mana mapugngan, kung love”. Well, I am the living proof. I was once in like with someone but I know it was purely admiration. I was invited for a date by someone but I repudiated. I was also asked by someone to court me but I refused. (And if you’re going to ask me that someone’s name, well I am very sorry darling; this is something I have to keep for myself). The reason behind all of these is that I have my first love already – my course, Chemical Engineering and I was not even PRAYERFUL about my love life. I only prayed for the goodness of my family, myself and my studies, my friends and countrymen and I didn’t even include my love life because I know God is so good in answering my prayers (baka sasagutin niya agad!Hindi pa ako ready Lord, you know that). How come someone appear asking me for a date yet I am not praying for that someone to come into my life? Destiny? Oh no! I don’t believe in destiny. I refused because I give so much respect to my parents’ decisions as much as they give respect to mine. I don’t want to regret. I don’t want to experience puchu – puchu relationship. I don’t like to change my fb status “to single to in a relationship to in a relationship but it’s complicated to single again” ng basta2x lang (In reality, dalawa lang naman ang status: single o di kaya’y married dbha?). Even if they will allow me, I would rather choose being single until I finish college, I pass the board exam, become an engineer and I am already tired of being single anymore.LOL!

I don’t believe in destiny dahil hindi naman nakasalalay ang aking buhay sa tadhana kung hindi sa Panginoon lamang. All I am wanting is to have a relationship with someone that is truly blessed by God. I claim that if not today then probably in His perfect timing. If God’s will then its God’s will.

If you are single,consider this an advanced greeting!

 Whatever your situation is,remember,LOVE NEVER FAILS. You will either find it or it will find you in His most perfect timing!